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Discussion # 17 - Ego / Pride

Most people think of ego as being all bad, & it's not. Ego in it's purest form is self-esteem, which (in the right dose) is extremely healthy. Pride is also healthy in the right dose. Why these terms have gotten such a bad reputation, is because many people overdose on them. When most talk about pride & ego, they are really referring to extreme pride & ego. Which, when coupled with greed are basically the root of all evil.

As we see/experience everything through our own eyes/senses, the world really does seem to revolve around us. It's easy to see why so many struggle with this issue. People try desperately to hide these attitudes, but they are always there. We take pride in our education, property, affluence, family, accomplishments, talents, (etc.), & this is normal, healthy & fun. Just like a lot of things in life, it's only a problem in excess.

People are watching very closely for these traits, & they greatly affect our popularity. It makes me laugh when I see people being overly judgemental in this area, because it's pretty obvious they do it too. Everyone flexes their pride & ego muscles every now & then, & in moderation it's healthy, gratifying & enjoyable. On the other hand when extreme, people can smell it a mile away, & it can be a pretty foul odor. It shouldn't be all or nothing, just balance. This applies to the competitive spirit as well.

Think of our ego as being the underlying driving engine that is constantly chugging away, attempting to maintain or increase our perceived significance in the universe. It's interesting to see how we all quickly evaluate each other when meeting someone for the first time. It can be extremely difficult to change this initial evaluation regardless of what we accomplish or achieve later on. People generally attempt to keep you at that same level in their minds forever. It would take something extremely major to alter it even a little. It's funny that despite this, our ego strongly motivates us to almost constantly try.

We all have an ego (self-esteem). It's only when a person's ego greatly surpasses their talent, or justification for said ego, that people are turned off and will judge harshly for it. Most people tend to be fairly self-absorbed in the modern era, and generally toggle back & forth between feeling quite proud of themselves, to obsession with their own perceived flaws. The more confident an individual is, the less they will vacillate in this manner, and the more likely they (we) will be more generous and thoughtful towards others. As we advance through history, narcissism is becoming more and more common, but there are still some down-to-earth, humble people out there (and many more who fall somewhere in between).

Whether at work or at play, for most people much of the time, dealing with the egos of others is generally by far the most mentally exhausting aspect of life. The higher the "arse factor" of the person or people you are dealing with, the more exhausting it is. On the other hand, many get a huge thrill out of competing with those who have a similarly large ego, and interacting with others can often be the most enjoyable activity in this life. It's a complex subject, as we are complex creatures. Getting a good handle on this, however, normally results in dramatically higher quality of life.

Many women are actually quite attracted to a man with a larger ego or AF (and vise/versa). They are often more than willing to tolerate the more negative aspects that come with these more aggressive personality types. This has always been quite fascinating to me, as being myself more of a passive and laid-back individual, I've noticed this phenomenon on many occasions. The basic underlying aggression level is in my opinion, one of the most critical and defining aspects of our personality (second only to intelligence). This just further proves how complex and different we all are.

Another strange but true reality, is that all racial pockets of people in our world are at least a little racist toward some or all other pockets. Not overtly, as of course this is politically incorrect and socially unacceptable, but more of a subtle, underlying attitude that certain (or all) other pockets are somehow less significant overall as human beings. It's absolutely hilarious to me, how so many honestly believe that it's a one-way street in this area. In other words, most believe that they are the ones that either are or aren't acting or feeling racist toward others. It actually works both ways, our ego just doesn't normally see it this way.

The world doesn't just revolve around us, it also revolves around our racial and/or social groups, whatever they might be. To us, our skin colour, etc. seems more "normal", and to others, their's seems more "normal". It's all just perception. This is a big part of the reason why when people immigrate into a foreign country, most normally congregate and choose to live surrounded by their own racial and/or religious pockets.

As much as many try to put others first (including myself), if we're really honest with ourselves, we know that our ego makes it really tough to do. Most can pull this off with their own children, parents, close family and friends, but beyond that, it can be very difficult. When you really stop and think about this, it makes no sense at all. Yes we're genetically and/or emotionally/socially more closely linked, but why is this such a massively huge deal to us? We're all human beings! The answer is simple, it's just our human ego. I personally believe that the main thing is to respect each other as fellow human beings. We're all sharing this planet with each other, and deserve a fair shot at happiness in this thing called life.

The ego we all possess has a huge impact on the game of "Social Darwinism" that the world has become. Our ego is pumping away constantly, rising and falling depending on the situation at hand. How others perceive this in an overall, ongoing fashion plays a huge role in how successful people actually become in life, and by success I don't mean just financial. I'm talking about health and healthy longevity as well. Big thing; do not confuse ego with confidence!

Life can be tricky, risky, and extremely frustrating at times. We are all living in a relatively precarious situation here on earth. No one ever said it would be easy, but when it's sweet, man is it ever sweet! Attempting to figure life out in all of it's complexity is not for everyone, but for those who try, the rewards are normally massive! Many prefer to stay extremely compartmentalized, as it often seems easier and less scary. To a very large degree, the world just is what it is. Attempting to change it to any large degree can seem like a pretty futile mission, but really understanding it, or at least getting a good handle on it, can be unbelievably empowering!

The human ego is a very big part of life on earth, much bigger than most realize. It plays a huge role in much of what goes on in our day-to-day lives. It also has historically (and continues to) play a huge role in larger corporate, government, religious, and societal issues, decisions and policies. It is an extremely powerful force in our world that motivates many to do great, and sometimes not-so-great things. It is imperative that people start paying more attention to this force. If we choose to ignore it, the consequences can often be catastrophic, both in our personal lives and in the bigger picture.
Discussion # 17 - Ego / Pride

Most people think of ego as being all bad, & it's not. Ego in it's purest form is self-esteem, which (in the right dose) is extremely healthy. Pride is also healthy in the right dose. Why these terms have gotten such a bad reputation, is because many people overdose on them. When most talk about pride & ego, they are really referring to extreme pride & ego. Which, when coupled with greed are basically the root of all evil.

As we see/experience everything through our own eyes/senses, the world really does seem to revolve around us. It's easy to see why so many struggle with this issue. People try desperately to hide these attitudes, but they are always there. We take pride in our education, property, affluence, family, accomplishments, talents, (etc.), & this is normal, healthy & fun. Just like a lot of things in life, it's only a problem in excess.

People are watching very closely for these traits, & they greatly affect our popularity. It makes me laugh when I see people being overly judgemental in this area, because it's pretty obvious they do it too. Everyone flexes their pride & ego muscles every now & then, & in moderation it's healthy, gratifying & enjoyable. On the other hand when extreme, people can smell it a mile away, & it can be a pretty foul odor. It shouldn't be all or nothing, just balance. This applies to the competitive spirit as well.

Think of our ego as being the underlying driving engine that is constantly chugging away, attempting to maintain or increase our perceived significance in the universe. It's interesting to see how we all quickly evaluate each other when meeting someone for the first time. It can be extremely difficult to change this initial evaluation regardless of what we accomplish or achieve later on. People generally attempt to keep you at that same level in their minds forever. It would take something extremely major to alter it even a little. It's funny that despite this, our ego strongly motivates us to almost constantly try.

We all have an ego (self-esteem). It's only when a person's ego greatly surpasses their talent, or justification for said ego, that people are turned off and will judge harshly for it. Most people tend to be fairly self-absorbed in the modern era, and generally toggle back & forth between feeling quite proud of themselves, to obsession with their own perceived flaws. The more confident an individual is, the less they will vacillate in this manner, and the more likely they (we) will be more generous and thoughtful towards others. As we advance through history, narcissism is becoming more and more common, but there are still some down-to-earth, humble people out there (and many more who fall somewhere in between).

Whether at work or at play, for most people much of the time, dealing with the egos of others is generally by far the most mentally exhausting aspect of life. The higher the "arse factor" of the person or people you are dealing with, the more exhausting it is. On the other hand, many get a huge thrill out of competing with those who have a similarly large ego, and interacting with others can often be the most enjoyable activity in this life. It's a complex subject, as we are complex creatures. Getting a good handle on this, however, normally results in dramatically higher quality of life.

Many women are actually quite attracted to a man with a larger ego or AF (and vise/versa). They are often more than willing to tolerate the more negative aspects that come with these more aggressive personality types. This has always been quite fascinating to me, as being myself more of a passive and laid-back individual, I've noticed this phenomenon on many occasions. The basic underlying aggression level is in my opinion, one of the most critical and defining aspects of our personality (second only to intelligence). This just further proves how complex and different we all are.

Another strange but true reality, is that all racial pockets of people in our world are at least a little racist toward some or all other pockets. Not overtly, as of course this is politically incorrect and socially unacceptable, but more of a subtle, underlying attitude that certain (or all) other pockets are somehow less significant overall as human beings. It's absolutely hilarious to me, how so many honestly believe that it's a one-way street in this area. In other words, most believe that they are the ones that either are or aren't acting or feeling racist toward others. It actually works both ways, our ego just doesn't normally see it this way.

The world doesn't just revolve around us, it also revolves around our racial and/or social groups, whatever they might be. To us, our skin colour, etc. seems more "normal", and to others, their's seems more "normal". It's all just perception. This is a big part of the reason why when people immigrate into a foreign country, most normally congregate and choose to live surrounded by their own racial and/or religious pockets.

As much as many try to put others first (including myself), if we're really honest with ourselves, we know that our ego makes it really tough to do. Most can pull this off with their own children, parents, close family and friends, but beyond that, it can be very difficult. When you really stop and think about this, it makes no sense at all. Yes we're genetically and/or emotionally/socially more closely linked, but why is this such a massively huge deal to us? We're all human beings! The answer is simple, it's just our human ego. I personally believe that the main thing is to respect each other as fellow human beings. We're all sharing this planet with each other, and deserve a fair shot at happiness in this thing called life.

The ego we all possess has a huge impact on the game of "Social Darwinism" that the world has become. Our ego is pumping away constantly, rising and falling depending on the situation at hand. How others perceive this in an overall, ongoing fashion plays a huge role in how successful people actually become in life, and by success I don't mean just financial. I'm talking about health and healthy longevity as well. Big thing; do not confuse ego with confidence!

Life can be tricky, risky, and extremely frustrating at times. We are all living in a relatively precarious situation here on earth. No one ever said it would be easy, but when it's sweet, man is it ever sweet! Attempting to figure life out in all of it's complexity is not for everyone, but for those who try, the rewards are normally massive! Many prefer to stay extremely compartmentalized, as it often seems easier and less scary. To a very large degree, the world just is what it is. Attempting to change it to any large degree can seem like a pretty futile mission, but really understanding it, or at least getting a good handle on it, can be unbelievably empowering!

The human ego is a very big part of life on earth, much bigger than most realize. It plays a huge role in much of what goes on in our day-to-day lives. It also has historically (and continues to) play a huge role in larger corporate, government, religious, and societal issues, decisions and policies. It is an extremely powerful force in our world that motivates many to do great, and sometimes not-so-great things. It is imperative that people start paying more attention to this force. If we choose to ignore it, the consequences can often be catastrophic, both in our personal lives and in the bigger picture.